The bottom line on our parenting philosophy usually comes down to "whatever it takes." That said, there are SOME things we are pretty inflexible with, no matter what it would take.
Before proceeding, if you are going to be judgey, stop here. You may suffer in silence but I don't really want to hear how this is the wrong way to do it - unless you are prepared for me to come back to YOU on all the things that I feel you are doing wrong. That said, I try not to think one way is the wrong way or the right way. The disclaimer on that is I think we know the best way for our family. I'm
somewhat wish I was open to suggestions, if you are.
A wise friend of mine usually says, "it's a kitchen, not a restaurant" but I think I'm going with buffet. We don't have a lot of rules in our house, but when it comes to eating and dinner we are trying to hold true to one. You eat what we are eating or you are not eating. Some (all grandparents that are currently connected to the kid) may think this makes
Currently Halloween candy is making dinner dreams come true. Instead of the threat of starvation, the fact that with out eating most everything there is no treat after dinner. It perhaps could be the end of the road, as the Halloween loot is running thin, but we'll work it out (AKA stock fridge with ice pops). It's not that we want to dictators, sometimes she gets a choice for dinner. When we are eating something that wouldn't be cruel and unusual punishment (see chili or salad night after night) she has no choice. She has some choices any day. She can (usually) have any vegetable and any fruit to nosh on. We are lucky, she likes the good stuff. Where we run into issues is she could probably live on bread and butter or pasta and ... you guessed it butter. Would it be the end of the world to make pasta every night? No. It's just not happening. What happens when there is more than one? I am no short order cook, hell I don't even cook.